Tower of Light Ministries

Charitable Giving and 2016 Overview

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2016 is drawing to a close and it’s a time when many people do their end of year charitable giving. I don’t regularly do a formal ask for support however once/year I remind people that if they would like to support me in the work I do they can do so. The work I do at Tower of Light Ministries is completely on a volunteer basis. Northshore Community Church generously provides me with office space, meeting rooms, and an operating budget, however any personal support is done through charitable giving. If you would like to make a contribution to the work I do in helping those struggling with same-sex attractions get the help and support they need, in educating the church so that we can love people in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way, in supporting parents, family members and spouses who are impacted by their loved ones same-sex attractions (SSA), etc. you can do so here.

CoLink needs to receive any end-of-year gifts before December 27th, gifts received after that will be processed in 2017. If your address changed in 2016 please let them know at

The end of the year is also a time when I reflect on what is God is doing through the work He has called me to do, to love Him by serving those He’s sent my way. In looking back over 2016 and celebrating what God has done:

  • 10 men and women struggling with same-sex attractions came and met with me for the first time, some were one time meetings but many were for ongoing lay counseling or they started attending a group.
  • Approximately 26 people with SSA attended a recovery group.
  • 15 parents or family members came for help with knowing how to appropriate relate to their loved one.
  • 15 men who weren’t struggling with SSA came for help with a variety of other issues.
  • I lay counseled 20 men.
  • I was able to meet with 5 classes of high school students at a Christian School to talk about homosexuality. Many of the students shared afterward that they had been confused about how to view homosexuality and that they now felt much more grounded.
  • I was able to do a workshop on homosexuality at a sexual addiction conference.
  • I was able to participate on a panel on homosexuality at an annual Calvary Chapel pastors conference with 100-120 pastors attending the workshop. Three pastors from that have contacted me about possibly speaking at their churches.
  • I spoke at a gathering of 3 local churches on the topic of transsexuality and then participated on a panel Q&A.
  • I gave a workshop on “Healthy Boundaries in Ministry” at the annual Restored Hope Network Conference in Chicago.

In looking forward to 2017

  • I’m already scheduled to give 2 of my 4.5 hour seminars on homosexuality at churches. I hope to do at least 4 seminars this year.
  • I’m scheduled to teach on sexuality at a couple “Youth With a Mission” counseling schools overseas, one in South Africa and one in Switzerland. I’ve also been invited to teach at one in Sweden later in the year.  While there I offer to do a Saturday seminar on homosexuality for the rest of the YWAM base and local churches so that may happen as well.

I know it’s easy to get lost in the numbers of people coming for help or in the events and seminars being done.  However, it’s when I meet with someone who is coming to talk for the first time who is shrouded in shame and self-hatred and is able to talk with someone who understands what they’re going through, who hears that God loves them with their SSA, that the attractions themselves aren’t sin (it’s what we do with our attractions that can be sinful), that others are walking in holiness with this issue and they’re not alone – that the shame starts to fall off them and they start to find hope. It’s in those moments that I’m reminded of my own journey and why it is that God has called me to this ministry – to let each one of these people know how deeply God loves them and of His desire for them to surrender their lives to Him and follow Him. It’s always my hope that in the process of walking this journey out with God that they will encounter more and more of their heavenly Father’s love for them. It really is a privilege to be able to partner with God in the work He is doing.

While your financial support is highly appreciated there is also a spiritual battle going on for the souls of those I minister to and I greatly covet your prayers. Prayer is what enables and supports the work God is doing and your prayers are greatly appreciated.

I’m very glad to have you partnering with me.

Thank you for your support and I hope you have a blessed Christmas this year.

James 5:20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins

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A Divine Encounter

I recently went on a weekend getaway out of town and had a divine appointment I thought I’d share.  In the middle of a pretty hip town with great architecture, lots of artist shops, new age establishments, etc. I discovered a Christian shop.  I was surprised to see a Christian store there and went in to check it out. I struck up a conversation with the owner and it turned into a long conversation.  I opened the conversation with how cool the town was and he responded that he loved it here, that you could be whoever you are and be accepted – Christian, gay, etc.  I then told him about what I do ministering to people with unwanted same-sex attractions and it was the start of a great conversation.

It turns out he has two immediate family members that are gay and he’s connected in with other gay people in town as well.   We had a great conversation about how God deeply loves his gay family members and friends and desires them to surrender their lives to Him so they can spend eternity with Him.  He was actually very Biblically grounded and we had a great discussion on how to love the people in his life without compromising his Biblical viewpoints. He said multiple times that he’d never met anyone like me before and how great it was to have someone to talk to about this. He’d met many Christians who were Biblically grounded in truth but had very little love for gay people and he was grateful for being able to talk about how to love people well without compromising scripture.

I gave him my contact information and I hope to stay in touch.  God used what I thought was going to just be a fun weekend away for something bigger, to encourage and equip this guy to love the gay people in his life well without compromising his beliefs. It was the highlight of my trip.

Ministry Update

I know it’s been a while since anyone’s received a blog entry/update from me, I discovered that when the church’s webpages were migrated to our new layout this summer that the list of blog subscribers was accidentally lost, the only person who received my blog was me. After working on this issue for months I manually added a number of people to the blog last week and then found out that our web administrator was able to recover the list of previous subscribers.  Yeah!

Now that things have been reestablished I thought I’d send out an update regarding what’s been happening the past few months.  August and September was a very busy time of preparing for the fall programs, some speaking engagements, and with meeting with people 1-on-1.

One of the programs I do is a 27 week program called Journey (it used to be called Living Waters) and once/year there is a leadership intensive week where potential leaders come and go through an intense mini-program.  This year it was held in August and I was asked to be part of the leadership team. It’s an intense week with leaders putting in 12-15 hour days and while I enjoy being part of the team it’s exhausting.  I participated again this year and it was a great week, very intense, very tiring but I think those who came experienced some significant breakthroughs.

Much of my work in August and September was preparing to launch the groups for the fall; meeting with potential participants and putting together the leadership team for Journey.  The groups are off and running and going well. I’m excited for what God is going to do in the lives of the participants this year.

I had a couple speaking engagements in September.  I was on a panel for an annual Northwest conference of Calvary Chapel pastors.  There were 125-150 pastors at the workshop and it went exceptionally well, in fact I’ve had 3 requests from pastors to come and do my 4.5 hour workshop at their churches which I’m very excited about.

I also spoke at a gathering of 3 churches one evening on transgender issues and was on a panel Q & A afterward.  It was my first time speaking specifically on this topic and it was well received.

It’s been a busy fall and I would appreciate your prayers for the ministry year:

  • For the group participants to meet God in deeply personal ways.
  • The God would protect the Journey leadership team; that they would be encouraged and blessed as they volunteer their time to minister to others.

Thank you everyone for your prayers and support,


If you would like to support me and the work I do in ministering to those with unwanted same-sex attractions you can do so here.

Documentary “How do you Like Me Now?”

How do you like me nowThis documentary is a great resource for parents, spouses, siblings or children of someone who has come out as gay. Parents, siblings, and children are often unprepared for this news and struggle with how to deal with their loved one in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way. Spouses deal with the shock and feelings of betrayal and the difficulty of how to handle this with the children. This film is narrated by Joe Dallas, author of “When Homosexuality Hits Home” and one of my favorite authors on topics regarding homosexuality. The film includes clips from a number of people who have walked this journey as they describe their experiences.

This DVD is put out by the same organization that did “Such Were Some of You”, a documentary that “tells the story of how people develop homosexual confusion and how Jesus Christ brings healing from those things that contribute to their same-sex attractions.” Both are excellent resources and can be purchased at as well as through Amazon.

Another Great Year of Journey

The 27 week Journey program I run had our final evening and it was a special time of sharing what Jesus did in participant’s lives this year. Journey is a great program where we invite Jesus into areas of pain and brokenness in people’s lives.  It can be an intense year as people bring up things they’ve never talked about before but they often encounter Jesus in deeper ways than they have before as well. Each year I love to hear what God has done in people’s lives, how they experienced their heavenly Father’s love for them and hopefully been able to love themselves more as a result. Some comments people made regarding their year:

  • The greatest thing I learned is to remove my many masks with people. I learned to give the responsibility of my healing in my life to God and trust Him moment by moment.
  • The healing throughout Journey by all the leadership touched every part of my life. Just when I thought God wasn’t doing anything – then He burst heaven open!! SO much healing!!
  • I appreciated having a place to be 100% honest and cared about once a week

I also have a wonderful group of leaders who serve with me week-after-week and year-after-year. I feel very blessed to serve with this team who have a heart for helping hurting people.

It is such a privilege to walk with people on their journey!



HOPE 2016 Conference, June 24-25

Tower of Light Ministries is a member of the Restored Hope Network (RHN), an umbrella organization of ministries that help people with unwanted same-sex attractions (SSA). Once a year Restored Hope Network does a 2 day conference on same-sex attractions for strugglers, their families, and anyone who wants to know how to love people dealing with this issue in a loving and Biblically appropriate way. This year the conference, HOPE 2016, is June 24-25 in Chicago. I will be there and I would love to have you join me. You can check it out and register here.

Some of the workshop topics are:

  • At The Well: Being Jesus in Our Culture
  • Breaking Free from the Spirit of Death and Despair
  • Developing Friendships, Support, and Accountability Relationships
  • God Made Me Do It: The Things I Never Intended to Learn
  • Homosexuality: A Case of Mistaken Responses
  • How to Reach LGBT Friends in a Post-Christian Culture
  • How Transformation Happens
  • Key to Ministering to the Hispanic Community
  • Making Your Church A Welcoming Place for God to Transform Lives
  • Why Gender Matters: Thoughts from a Transformed Transgender Person

The conference is a great place to be encouraged, to learn more about the issues around SSA, and to be better equipped to minister to those dealing with this issue in your community.

Isaiah 40:31 “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

If you would like to support me and the work I do in ministering to those with unwanted same-sex attractions you can do so here.

Seminar: “Homosexuality – How Should We Respond?”; Nov 21st

Homosexuality Flyer graphicIf someone in your life tells you they struggle with homosexuality how would you respond? If someone asks you if people are born gay and if there is a possibility for change, what would you say? If someone asks you what God says about homosexuality how would you answer?

I will be doing a seminar on Saturday morning Nov 21st from 8:30-1:00 at Northshore Community Church in Kirkland on how we should respond to the various questions we face regarding homosexuality. This is the same seminar I did in June so if you missed that one now is your chance to catch it! I’ll be covering the scriptures on homosexuality, the gay revisionist theology that’s becoming increasingly popular, how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, and how we should respond to those who are dealing with this issue in their lives.

This is a unique opportunity to be informed and think through this critical issue in our culture and in the lives of those we know and love.

No registration needed. No childcare provided.

Testimony – Happy News

bros around a coffee table (002)Many of the men coming for help with unwanted same-sex attractions don’t feel like they fit with other men, that they’re different from other men and that difference has them feeling like they’re on the outside of real men looking in. Part of the journey is acquiring a sense that who they are as a man with their own unique mix of characteristics is fine; that they’re a man amongst men; that they fit with men. I’m bringing this up because I recently received a very cool email from one of the men who participated in my Living Waters/Journey program. I asked him if I could share it with others on my blog and he gave his permission.

“Today I am writing you about some happy news for me. Last night I went to my first mainstream men’s bible study. During introductions I said a few things about me, and then the guy next to me said, “Yeah, we are all like that. It comes with having a Y chromosome”. The part that was so great for me, was that I genuinely agreed with him. I am a guy like any other guy (Check it out Jeff – I’m quoting you). I FIT in this group of guys.

I know that when I came to Living Waters, I wanted a complete one-hundred and eighty degree change in my sexual orientation. That didn’t happen, but I love the smaller changes just as much. I really love feeling like I belong in whatever group I am in. For me, this is a new feeling; for me this is a big deal. To me, this is happy news.”

A Time of Ministry in Thailand

I just spent a week in early September teaching on sexuality at a Youth With a Mission “Foundations of Counseling Ministry” school (FCM) in Chiang Mai, Thailand and had a very productive time. Thailand is a very sexually broken country, famous for its sex trade where families often sell their children into prostitution and where it’s not uncommon for families to intentionally cause transgender issues in their boys. Thailand’s constitution is even being changed to include the “third gender”. Thailand is the world leader in the number of sex reassignment surgeries and transgendered people are very common. The third gender applies to transgender as well as those who don’t identity as either male or female, it’s very common to encounter people whose appearance is completely androgynous. It was very fulfilling to be able to teach on sexuality in a country that is so gender confused.

The people attending the FCM schools are generally career missionaries who want to better help those they’re reaching out to. Of course in the process God often brings up areas in their own lives where he wants to come in and heal. When I teach at FCMs I offer to meet with people who are wanting some personal ministry time with me. I spent the week teaching all morning and then spent many of the afternoons/evenings meeting with people individually, 11 people in total. Additional people wanted to meet with me but my calendar was completely full. It was an intense week for many people and I know a number of them had significant breakthroughs while I was there. I feel very blessed to have had such an impact on so many people’s lives. A big “Thank You” to all those who partner with me with your prayers and sacrificial giving.

FYI – If you would like to financially partner with me and support the work I do you can do so here.

Ministering in Switzerland

            YWAM Lausanne, Switzerland

Lausanne, Switzerland

I just returned from a time of ministering at a Youth with a Mission (YWAM) base in Lausanne, Switzerland and it was a very productive and intense time. I started off the time with a 6 hour Saturday seminar on homosexuality for 55-60 YWAM missionaries. The seminar was longer than normal because it was being translated live into Chinese and Korean. I then taught for a week on sexuality for a Foundations of Counseling Ministry school that was primarily Chinese students so I needed to work with a Chinese translator. Talking about sex is taboo in Chinese culture so this was a unique opportunity for them to learn and talk about this important aspect of their lives. I also met with many of them individually to talk more deeply and to process areas of pain and brokenness. It was an intense and very blessed time.

Several people in Switzerland talked with me about personal struggles with same-sex attractions and I hope our time together was informative and helpful. I hope to continue to support them in their journeys.

While I just got back from teaching in Switzerland I’m going to be heading to Thailand shortly to teach on sexuality at a YWAM Foundations of Counseling School in Chiang Mai and I’ll also be doing a Saturday seminar on homosexuality for local Christians and missionaries. Thailand is a very sexually broken country and having well trained missionaries there to minister to those they’re reaching for Christ to is very important. Your prayers will be greatly appreciated, specifically that:

  • God would be preparing the hearts of the students to look into any areas of pain in their own lives where they need the healing touch of Jesus.
  • God would bless the seminar on homosexuality, that people would go away grounded in Biblical truth as well as how to relate to people in a loving yet scripturally appropriate way.
  • God would keep me healthy and safe.

Thank you everyone.

If you would like to financially partner with me and support the work I do you can do so here.