Tower of Light Ministries


2017 is drawing to a close and it’s a time when many people do their end of year charitable giving. I don’t regularly do a formal ask for support however once/year I remind people that if they would like to support me in the work I do they can do so. The work I do at Tower of Light Ministries is completely on a volunteer basis. Northshore Community Church generously provides me with office space, meeting rooms, and an operating budget, however any personal support is done through charitable giving. If you would like to make a contribution to the work I do in helping those struggling with same-sex attractions get the help and support they need, in educating the church so that we can love people in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way, in supporting parents, family members and spouses who are impacted by their loved ones same-sex attractions (SSA), etc. you can do so here. If your address changed in 2017 please let them know at

The end of the year is also a time when I reflect on what is God is doing through the work He has called me to do, to love Him by serving those He’s sent my way. In looking back over 2017 and celebrating what God has done:

  • 17 men and women struggling with same-sex attractions came and met with me for the first time, some were one time meetings but many were for ongoing lay counseling or they started attending a group.
  • Approximately 26 people with SSA attended a recovery group.
  • 15 parents or family members came for help with knowing how to appropriate relate to their loved one.
  • 13 men who weren’t struggling with SSA came for help with a variety of other issues.
  • I lay counseled 16 men.
  • I gave my 4.5-5.0 hour seminar on “LGBT – How Should We Respond?” at 5 different churches around the state with about 600 people attending.
  • I was able to meet with 5 classes of high school students at a Christian School to talk about homosexuality.
  • I did a 2 week series on LGBT issues for the youth at Northshore Community Church.
  • I spoke for 2 weeks at a Sunday School Class at a Chinese church.
  • I taught a 2 week course on sexuality at 3 “Youth With a Mission” counseling schools overseas, one in South Africa, one in Switzerland, and one in Sweden. As part of those times I also did an evening teaching on homosexuality for the rest of the base. These trainings are quite intense with teaching, small group ministry time, and individual counseling sessions.
  • I led/oversaw a weekly group for men struggling with unwanted SSA. I led the group for 14 years and this September I have another man who has stepped in to lead the group this year.
  • I coordinated an 8 month Journey group for people with a variety of issues and have a team of 5 people working with me leading the program and small groups.
  • Since September I’ve been helping lead a 9 month group for men dealing with sexual addiction.

In looking forward to 2018:

  • I’m already scheduled to give one of my 4.5 hour “LGBT – How Should We Respond?” seminars on homosexuality at a local church. I hope to do at least 4 seminars this year.
  • I’m scheduled to do a 1-2 workshops on homosexuality at a conference in Richland, WA.
  • I’m scheduled to teach on sexuality at a “Youth With a Mission” counseling school in Switzerland and may be invited to teach at more.
  • I’m teaching a couple days on homosexuality/transgender at a local course for those wanting to minister to the sexually broken.
  • I’m speaking to a group of mothers on the roles parents play in the development of their children.

In looking at all I’m doing it’s easy to get lost in all the activity, the numbers of people, the events, etc.  However what it really comes down to is people finding the support they need from people who understand and accept them. People usually come engulfed in shame, self-hatred and hopelessness. It’s my hope that as people encounter their heavenly Father in their areas of brokenness and shame that they will get a glimpse of how much they’ve always been loved and adored by Him, and as that happens their shame and self-hatred falls away.

As one young man told his parents as they were leaving my office for the first time “That was better than any Christmas present you could’ve given me”.

While your financial support is highly appreciated there is also a spiritual battle going on for the souls of those I minister to and I greatly covet your prayers. Prayer is what enables and supports the work God is doing and your prayers are greatly appreciated.

I’m very glad to have you partnering with me.

Thank you for your support and I hope you have a blessed Christmas this year.

James 5:20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins

If you would like to financially support me you can make a tax deductible contribution here.

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Adonis Testimony – Running From God

This video of Adonis Bemish’s testimony was shown at Northshore Community Church on Sunday. His story is one of running from God, hitting rock bottom, and finally surrendering his life and following God. Adonis has been a part of Tower of Light Ministries for the past several years.  I’m glad God brought him here and it’s been a privilege to walk with him on his journey of finding hope, support, and healing.

Matthew 5:14-16 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden; nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”

If you’d like to support the work I do with Tower of Light Ministries you can do so here.

Fall Groups Starting – Sign up now!

Summer is drawing to close, kids are heading back to school, and now is the perfect time to consider signing up for one of my groups to start/continue your healing journey.  This fall I have 2 groups for you to consider:

Taking Back Ground is for men struggling with unwanted same-sex attractions (SSA). Its on Monday nights and works through material created specifically for people dealing with SSA.  It’s a safe place to start processing your story and to realize you’re not alone in the journey.

Journey is a prayer focused ministry for men and women on Wednesday evenings. While Journey is great for people wanting to work through a variety of issues it was initially developed for people with unwanted SSA and was broadened to address root issues common to everyone. It’s a very powerful, prayer ministry and if you’d like to participate this year please let me know ASAP because there’s an application process.

Both these groups start in 2 weeks so if you’d like to join one of them please contact me ASAP at or at 425-216-4443.

I also have a support group I refer people to for parents with a child involved with homosexuality. I know it can be a difficult, isolated journey for Christian parents of a gay identified child. It can very valuable to connect with other parents who are walking this same path with their children. If you’d like to connect with this group please contact me and I’d be happy to talk with you.

LGBT – How Should We Respond? Sept 16, Oct 7

If someone in your life tells you they struggle with homosexuality or transgender issues how would you respond? If someone asks you if people are born gay and if there is a possibility for change, what would you say? If someone says they’re a different gender inside than their biological gender how would you reply? If someone asks you what God says about homosexuality or transgenderism how would you answer?

There are 2 upcoming seminars where I will be addressing how we should respond to the various questions we face regarding these issues:

  • Saturday morning September 16 from 8:30-1:00 at Northwest Church in Federal Way, WA. Seating is limited so they’re asking people to register. Childcare is available but you must request it when registering.  To register click here
  • Saturday morning October 7 from 8:30-1:30 at Camano Chapel on Camano Island, WA. Lunch is provided. No childcare.

This is the same seminar I have done in the past so if you missed those or have friends who would like to attend this is their chance! I’ll be covering the scriptures on homosexuality and transgenderism, the gay revisionist theology that’s becoming increasingly popular, how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, and how we should respond to those who are dealing with these issues in their lives.

This is a unique opportunity to be informed and think through these critical issues in our culture and in the lives of those we know and love.

To support me and the work I do with Tower of Light Ministries you can donate here.

Tranzformed Documentary

As part of the Restored Hope Network Conference I attended in San Diego in June there was the screening of the new documentary Tranzformed. The documentary is on transgenderism and is an informative, biblically based, and compassionate film. It includes testimonies from 15 people who have struggled with transgenderism and found hope and healing with Jesus. You can watch a trailer for it here.

Some incredible stories of people who have walked out of transgenderism:  Kathy Grace who lived as man before God revealed her true identity to her: Part 1, Part 2. Daniel Delgado who grew up as a drag queen: Part 1, Part 2.  Walter Heyer who regrets having sex reassignment surgery Part 1, Part 2. Diamond Dee who went through sex reassignment surgery (his story is a little graphic) Part 1, Part 2.

Tranzformed was put together by the same people who did “Such Were Some of You” (for those struggling with homosexuality) and “How Do You Like Me Now?” (when a child, spouse or sibling says they’re gay).

You can purchase a copy of any of these on Amazon or from the producers at Pure Passion here.

Seminar this Saturday 8:30am Northshore Community Church

Just a reminder that I’ll be  doing my seminar “Homosexuality – How Should We Respond?” this Saturday at Northshore Community Church from 8:30am-1:00pm.

This is the same seminar I have done in the past so if you missed those or have friends who would like to attend this is their chance! I’ll be covering the scriptures on homosexuality and transgenderism, the gay revisionist theology that’s becoming increasingly popular, how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, and how we should respond to those who are dealing with these issues in their lives.

This is a unique opportunity to be informed and think through these critical issues in our culture and in the lives of those we know and love.

No registration needed. No childcare provided.  There will be coffee!

Restored Hope Network Conference June 16-17

This year the annual Restored Hope Network Conference is on June 16-17 in San Diego and if you register before March 15th you save 15%.

Restored Hope Network (RHN) is an umbrella organization of ministries who focus on ministering to those struggling with homosexuality and transgenderism and their loved ones (Tower of Light Ministries is a member of RHN).  Once a year they do an annual conference where they bring in incredibly speakers (this year they have Joe Dallas, Linda Seiler and Janet Mefferd) and there are dozens of breakout sessions on a variety of topics.  It’s a great place for encouragement, to develop a deeper understanding of the issues, and to realize you’re not alone on this journey.  There will be testimonies from people who struggle in these areas as well as from parents. They will also be showing the world premiere of a new documentary on transgenderism.  Each year the conference is held in a different city and this is the first time in 3 years it’s on the west coast, so it’s particularly accessible to most of us.

You can find out more about the conference or register by clicking here

A Divine Encounter

I recently went on a weekend getaway out of town and had a divine appointment I thought I’d share.  In the middle of a pretty hip town with great architecture, lots of artist shops, new age establishments, etc. I discovered a Christian shop.  I was surprised to see a Christian store there and went in to check it out. I struck up a conversation with the owner and it turned into a long conversation.  I opened the conversation with how cool the town was and he responded that he loved it here, that you could be whoever you are and be accepted – Christian, gay, etc.  I then told him about what I do ministering to people with unwanted same-sex attractions and it was the start of a great conversation.

It turns out he has two immediate family members that are gay and he’s connected in with other gay people in town as well.   We had a great conversation about how God deeply loves his gay family members and friends and desires them to surrender their lives to Him so they can spend eternity with Him.  He was actually very Biblically grounded and we had a great discussion on how to love the people in his life without compromising his Biblical viewpoints. He said multiple times that he’d never met anyone like me before and how great it was to have someone to talk to about this. He’d met many Christians who were Biblically grounded in truth but had very little love for gay people and he was grateful for being able to talk about how to love people well without compromising scripture.

I gave him my contact information and I hope to stay in touch.  God used what I thought was going to just be a fun weekend away for something bigger, to encourage and equip this guy to love the gay people in his life well without compromising his beliefs. It was the highlight of my trip.

Ministry Update

I know it’s been a while since anyone’s received a blog entry/update from me, I discovered that when the church’s webpages were migrated to our new layout this summer that the list of blog subscribers was accidentally lost, the only person who received my blog was me. After working on this issue for months I manually added a number of people to the blog last week and then found out that our web administrator was able to recover the list of previous subscribers.  Yeah!

Now that things have been reestablished I thought I’d send out an update regarding what’s been happening the past few months.  August and September was a very busy time of preparing for the fall programs, some speaking engagements, and with meeting with people 1-on-1.

One of the programs I do is a 27 week program called Journey (it used to be called Living Waters) and once/year there is a leadership intensive week where potential leaders come and go through an intense mini-program.  This year it was held in August and I was asked to be part of the leadership team. It’s an intense week with leaders putting in 12-15 hour days and while I enjoy being part of the team it’s exhausting.  I participated again this year and it was a great week, very intense, very tiring but I think those who came experienced some significant breakthroughs.

Much of my work in August and September was preparing to launch the groups for the fall; meeting with potential participants and putting together the leadership team for Journey.  The groups are off and running and going well. I’m excited for what God is going to do in the lives of the participants this year.

I had a couple speaking engagements in September.  I was on a panel for an annual Northwest conference of Calvary Chapel pastors.  There were 125-150 pastors at the workshop and it went exceptionally well, in fact I’ve had 3 requests from pastors to come and do my 4.5 hour workshop at their churches which I’m very excited about.

I also spoke at a gathering of 3 churches one evening on transgender issues and was on a panel Q & A afterward.  It was my first time speaking specifically on this topic and it was well received.

It’s been a busy fall and I would appreciate your prayers for the ministry year:

  • For the group participants to meet God in deeply personal ways.
  • The God would protect the Journey leadership team; that they would be encouraged and blessed as they volunteer their time to minister to others.

Thank you everyone for your prayers and support,


If you would like to support me and the work I do in ministering to those with unwanted same-sex attractions you can do so here.

Documentary “How do you Like Me Now?”

How do you like me nowThis documentary is a great resource for parents, spouses, siblings or children of someone who has come out as gay. Parents, siblings, and children are often unprepared for this news and struggle with how to deal with their loved one in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way. Spouses deal with the shock and feelings of betrayal and the difficulty of how to handle this with the children. This film is narrated by Joe Dallas, author of “When Homosexuality Hits Home” and one of my favorite authors on topics regarding homosexuality. The film includes clips from a number of people who have walked this journey as they describe their experiences.

This DVD is put out by the same organization that did “Such Were Some of You”, a documentary that “tells the story of how people develop homosexual confusion and how Jesus Christ brings healing from those things that contribute to their same-sex attractions.” Both are excellent resources and can be purchased at as well as through Amazon.