Tower of Light Ministries

Seminar this Saturday 8:30am Northshore Community Church

Just a reminder that I’ll be  doing my seminar “Homosexuality – How Should We Respond?” this Saturday at Northshore Community Church from 8:30am-1:00pm.

This is the same seminar I have done in the past so if you missed those or have friends who would like to attend this is their chance! I’ll be covering the scriptures on homosexuality and transgenderism, the gay revisionist theology that’s becoming increasingly popular, how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, and how we should respond to those who are dealing with these issues in their lives.

This is a unique opportunity to be informed and think through these critical issues in our culture and in the lives of those we know and love.

No registration needed. No childcare provided.  There will be coffee!

Seminars: Kirkland April 22, Richland April 8

If someone in your life tells you they struggle with homosexuality or transgender issues how would you respond? If someone asks you if people are born gay and if there is a possibility for change, what would you say? If someone says they’re a different gender inside than their biological gender how would you reply? If someone asks you what God says about homosexuality or transgenderism how would you answer?

I will be doing 2 seminars in April on how we should respond to the various questions we face regarding these issues:

  • Saturday morning April 22 from 8:30-1:00 at Northshore Community Church in Kirkland, WA
  • Saturday morning April 8 from 8:30-1:00 at Calvary Chapel Tri-Cities in Richland, WA.

This is the same seminar I have done in the past so if you missed those or have friends who would like to attend this is their chance! I’ll be covering the scriptures on homosexuality and transgenderism, the gay revisionist theology that’s becoming increasingly popular, how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, and how we should respond to those who are dealing with these issues in their lives.

This is a unique opportunity to be informed and think through these critical issues in our culture and in the lives of those we know and love.

No registration needed. No childcare provided.

Restored Hope Network Conference June 16-17

This year the annual Restored Hope Network Conference is on June 16-17 in San Diego and if you register before March 15th you save 15%.

Restored Hope Network (RHN) is an umbrella organization of ministries who focus on ministering to those struggling with homosexuality and transgenderism and their loved ones (Tower of Light Ministries is a member of RHN).  Once a year they do an annual conference where they bring in incredibly speakers (this year they have Joe Dallas, Linda Seiler and Janet Mefferd) and there are dozens of breakout sessions on a variety of topics.  It’s a great place for encouragement, to develop a deeper understanding of the issues, and to realize you’re not alone on this journey.  There will be testimonies from people who struggle in these areas as well as from parents. They will also be showing the world premiere of a new documentary on transgenderism.  Each year the conference is held in a different city and this is the first time in 3 years it’s on the west coast, so it’s particularly accessible to most of us.

You can find out more about the conference or register by clicking here

Charitable Giving and 2016 Overview

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2016 is drawing to a close and it’s a time when many people do their end of year charitable giving. I don’t regularly do a formal ask for support however once/year I remind people that if they would like to support me in the work I do they can do so. The work I do at Tower of Light Ministries is completely on a volunteer basis. Northshore Community Church generously provides me with office space, meeting rooms, and an operating budget, however any personal support is done through charitable giving. If you would like to make a contribution to the work I do in helping those struggling with same-sex attractions get the help and support they need, in educating the church so that we can love people in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way, in supporting parents, family members and spouses who are impacted by their loved ones same-sex attractions (SSA), etc. you can do so here.

CoLink needs to receive any end-of-year gifts before December 27th, gifts received after that will be processed in 2017. If your address changed in 2016 please let them know at

The end of the year is also a time when I reflect on what is God is doing through the work He has called me to do, to love Him by serving those He’s sent my way. In looking back over 2016 and celebrating what God has done:

  • 10 men and women struggling with same-sex attractions came and met with me for the first time, some were one time meetings but many were for ongoing lay counseling or they started attending a group.
  • Approximately 26 people with SSA attended a recovery group.
  • 15 parents or family members came for help with knowing how to appropriate relate to their loved one.
  • 15 men who weren’t struggling with SSA came for help with a variety of other issues.
  • I lay counseled 20 men.
  • I was able to meet with 5 classes of high school students at a Christian School to talk about homosexuality. Many of the students shared afterward that they had been confused about how to view homosexuality and that they now felt much more grounded.
  • I was able to do a workshop on homosexuality at a sexual addiction conference.
  • I was able to participate on a panel on homosexuality at an annual Calvary Chapel pastors conference with 100-120 pastors attending the workshop. Three pastors from that have contacted me about possibly speaking at their churches.
  • I spoke at a gathering of 3 local churches on the topic of transsexuality and then participated on a panel Q&A.
  • I gave a workshop on “Healthy Boundaries in Ministry” at the annual Restored Hope Network Conference in Chicago.

In looking forward to 2017

  • I’m already scheduled to give 2 of my 4.5 hour seminars on homosexuality at churches. I hope to do at least 4 seminars this year.
  • I’m scheduled to teach on sexuality at a couple “Youth With a Mission” counseling schools overseas, one in South Africa and one in Switzerland. I’ve also been invited to teach at one in Sweden later in the year.  While there I offer to do a Saturday seminar on homosexuality for the rest of the YWAM base and local churches so that may happen as well.

I know it’s easy to get lost in the numbers of people coming for help or in the events and seminars being done.  However, it’s when I meet with someone who is coming to talk for the first time who is shrouded in shame and self-hatred and is able to talk with someone who understands what they’re going through, who hears that God loves them with their SSA, that the attractions themselves aren’t sin (it’s what we do with our attractions that can be sinful), that others are walking in holiness with this issue and they’re not alone – that the shame starts to fall off them and they start to find hope. It’s in those moments that I’m reminded of my own journey and why it is that God has called me to this ministry – to let each one of these people know how deeply God loves them and of His desire for them to surrender their lives to Him and follow Him. It’s always my hope that in the process of walking this journey out with God that they will encounter more and more of their heavenly Father’s love for them. It really is a privilege to be able to partner with God in the work He is doing.

While your financial support is highly appreciated there is also a spiritual battle going on for the souls of those I minister to and I greatly covet your prayers. Prayer is what enables and supports the work God is doing and your prayers are greatly appreciated.

I’m very glad to have you partnering with me.

Thank you for your support and I hope you have a blessed Christmas this year.

James 5:20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins

If you would like to financially support me you can make a tax deductible contribution here.

A Divine Encounter

I recently went on a weekend getaway out of town and had a divine appointment I thought I’d share.  In the middle of a pretty hip town with great architecture, lots of artist shops, new age establishments, etc. I discovered a Christian shop.  I was surprised to see a Christian store there and went in to check it out. I struck up a conversation with the owner and it turned into a long conversation.  I opened the conversation with how cool the town was and he responded that he loved it here, that you could be whoever you are and be accepted – Christian, gay, etc.  I then told him about what I do ministering to people with unwanted same-sex attractions and it was the start of a great conversation.

It turns out he has two immediate family members that are gay and he’s connected in with other gay people in town as well.   We had a great conversation about how God deeply loves his gay family members and friends and desires them to surrender their lives to Him so they can spend eternity with Him.  He was actually very Biblically grounded and we had a great discussion on how to love the people in his life without compromising his Biblical viewpoints. He said multiple times that he’d never met anyone like me before and how great it was to have someone to talk to about this. He’d met many Christians who were Biblically grounded in truth but had very little love for gay people and he was grateful for being able to talk about how to love people well without compromising scripture.

I gave him my contact information and I hope to stay in touch.  God used what I thought was going to just be a fun weekend away for something bigger, to encourage and equip this guy to love the gay people in his life well without compromising his beliefs. It was the highlight of my trip.

Ministry Update

I know it’s been a while since anyone’s received a blog entry/update from me, I discovered that when the church’s webpages were migrated to our new layout this summer that the list of blog subscribers was accidentally lost, the only person who received my blog was me. After working on this issue for months I manually added a number of people to the blog last week and then found out that our web administrator was able to recover the list of previous subscribers.  Yeah!

Now that things have been reestablished I thought I’d send out an update regarding what’s been happening the past few months.  August and September was a very busy time of preparing for the fall programs, some speaking engagements, and with meeting with people 1-on-1.

One of the programs I do is a 27 week program called Journey (it used to be called Living Waters) and once/year there is a leadership intensive week where potential leaders come and go through an intense mini-program.  This year it was held in August and I was asked to be part of the leadership team. It’s an intense week with leaders putting in 12-15 hour days and while I enjoy being part of the team it’s exhausting.  I participated again this year and it was a great week, very intense, very tiring but I think those who came experienced some significant breakthroughs.

Much of my work in August and September was preparing to launch the groups for the fall; meeting with potential participants and putting together the leadership team for Journey.  The groups are off and running and going well. I’m excited for what God is going to do in the lives of the participants this year.

I had a couple speaking engagements in September.  I was on a panel for an annual Northwest conference of Calvary Chapel pastors.  There were 125-150 pastors at the workshop and it went exceptionally well, in fact I’ve had 3 requests from pastors to come and do my 4.5 hour workshop at their churches which I’m very excited about.

I also spoke at a gathering of 3 churches one evening on transgender issues and was on a panel Q & A afterward.  It was my first time speaking specifically on this topic and it was well received.

It’s been a busy fall and I would appreciate your prayers for the ministry year:

  • For the group participants to meet God in deeply personal ways.
  • The God would protect the Journey leadership team; that they would be encouraged and blessed as they volunteer their time to minister to others.

Thank you everyone for your prayers and support,


If you would like to support me and the work I do in ministering to those with unwanted same-sex attractions you can do so here.

Documentary “How do you Like Me Now?”

How do you like me nowThis documentary is a great resource for parents, spouses, siblings or children of someone who has come out as gay. Parents, siblings, and children are often unprepared for this news and struggle with how to deal with their loved one in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way. Spouses deal with the shock and feelings of betrayal and the difficulty of how to handle this with the children. This film is narrated by Joe Dallas, author of “When Homosexuality Hits Home” and one of my favorite authors on topics regarding homosexuality. The film includes clips from a number of people who have walked this journey as they describe their experiences.

This DVD is put out by the same organization that did “Such Were Some of You”, a documentary that “tells the story of how people develop homosexual confusion and how Jesus Christ brings healing from those things that contribute to their same-sex attractions.” Both are excellent resources and can be purchased at as well as through Amazon.

Another Great Year of Journey

The 27 week Journey program I run had our final evening and it was a special time of sharing what Jesus did in participant’s lives this year. Journey is a great program where we invite Jesus into areas of pain and brokenness in people’s lives.  It can be an intense year as people bring up things they’ve never talked about before but they often encounter Jesus in deeper ways than they have before as well. Each year I love to hear what God has done in people’s lives, how they experienced their heavenly Father’s love for them and hopefully been able to love themselves more as a result. Some comments people made regarding their year:

  • The greatest thing I learned is to remove my many masks with people. I learned to give the responsibility of my healing in my life to God and trust Him moment by moment.
  • The healing throughout Journey by all the leadership touched every part of my life. Just when I thought God wasn’t doing anything – then He burst heaven open!! SO much healing!!
  • I appreciated having a place to be 100% honest and cared about once a week

I also have a wonderful group of leaders who serve with me week-after-week and year-after-year. I feel very blessed to serve with this team who have a heart for helping hurting people.

It is such a privilege to walk with people on their journey!



HOPE 2016 Conference, June 24-25

Tower of Light Ministries is a member of the Restored Hope Network (RHN), an umbrella organization of ministries that help people with unwanted same-sex attractions (SSA). Once a year Restored Hope Network does a 2 day conference on same-sex attractions for strugglers, their families, and anyone who wants to know how to love people dealing with this issue in a loving and Biblically appropriate way. This year the conference, HOPE 2016, is June 24-25 in Chicago. I will be there and I would love to have you join me. You can check it out and register here.

Some of the workshop topics are:

  • At The Well: Being Jesus in Our Culture
  • Breaking Free from the Spirit of Death and Despair
  • Developing Friendships, Support, and Accountability Relationships
  • God Made Me Do It: The Things I Never Intended to Learn
  • Homosexuality: A Case of Mistaken Responses
  • How to Reach LGBT Friends in a Post-Christian Culture
  • How Transformation Happens
  • Key to Ministering to the Hispanic Community
  • Making Your Church A Welcoming Place for God to Transform Lives
  • Why Gender Matters: Thoughts from a Transformed Transgender Person

The conference is a great place to be encouraged, to learn more about the issues around SSA, and to be better equipped to minister to those dealing with this issue in your community.

Isaiah 40:31 “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

If you would like to support me and the work I do in ministering to those with unwanted same-sex attractions you can do so here.

Testimony – Happy News

bros around a coffee table (002)Many of the men coming for help with unwanted same-sex attractions don’t feel like they fit with other men, that they’re different from other men and that difference has them feeling like they’re on the outside of real men looking in. Part of the journey is acquiring a sense that who they are as a man with their own unique mix of characteristics is fine; that they’re a man amongst men; that they fit with men. I’m bringing this up because I recently received a very cool email from one of the men who participated in my Living Waters/Journey program. I asked him if I could share it with others on my blog and he gave his permission.

“Today I am writing you about some happy news for me. Last night I went to my first mainstream men’s bible study. During introductions I said a few things about me, and then the guy next to me said, “Yeah, we are all like that. It comes with having a Y chromosome”. The part that was so great for me, was that I genuinely agreed with him. I am a guy like any other guy (Check it out Jeff – I’m quoting you). I FIT in this group of guys.

I know that when I came to Living Waters, I wanted a complete one-hundred and eighty degree change in my sexual orientation. That didn’t happen, but I love the smaller changes just as much. I really love feeling like I belong in whatever group I am in. For me, this is a new feeling; for me this is a big deal. To me, this is happy news.”