Tower of Light Ministries

Documentary “How do you Like Me Now?”

How do you like me nowThis documentary is a great resource for parents, spouses, siblings or children of someone who has come out as gay. Parents, siblings, and children are often unprepared for this news and struggle with how to deal with their loved one in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way. Spouses deal with the shock and feelings of betrayal and the difficulty of how to handle this with the children. This film is narrated by Joe Dallas, author of “When Homosexuality Hits Home” and one of my favorite authors on topics regarding homosexuality. The film includes clips from a number of people who have walked this journey as they describe their experiences.

This DVD is put out by the same organization that did “Such Were Some of You”, a documentary that “tells the story of how people develop homosexual confusion and how Jesus Christ brings healing from those things that contribute to their same-sex attractions.” Both are excellent resources and can be purchased at as well as through Amazon.

Another Great Year of Journey

The 27 week Journey program I run had our final evening and it was a special time of sharing what Jesus did in participant’s lives this year. Journey is a great program where we invite Jesus into areas of pain and brokenness in people’s lives.  It can be an intense year as people bring up things they’ve never talked about before but they often encounter Jesus in deeper ways than they have before as well. Each year I love to hear what God has done in people’s lives, how they experienced their heavenly Father’s love for them and hopefully been able to love themselves more as a result. Some comments people made regarding their year:

  • The greatest thing I learned is to remove my many masks with people. I learned to give the responsibility of my healing in my life to God and trust Him moment by moment.
  • The healing throughout Journey by all the leadership touched every part of my life. Just when I thought God wasn’t doing anything – then He burst heaven open!! SO much healing!!
  • I appreciated having a place to be 100% honest and cared about once a week

I also have a wonderful group of leaders who serve with me week-after-week and year-after-year. I feel very blessed to serve with this team who have a heart for helping hurting people.

It is such a privilege to walk with people on their journey!



HOPE 2016 Conference, June 24-25

Tower of Light Ministries is a member of the Restored Hope Network (RHN), an umbrella organization of ministries that help people with unwanted same-sex attractions (SSA). Once a year Restored Hope Network does a 2 day conference on same-sex attractions for strugglers, their families, and anyone who wants to know how to love people dealing with this issue in a loving and Biblically appropriate way. This year the conference, HOPE 2016, is June 24-25 in Chicago. I will be there and I would love to have you join me. You can check it out and register here.

Some of the workshop topics are:

  • At The Well: Being Jesus in Our Culture
  • Breaking Free from the Spirit of Death and Despair
  • Developing Friendships, Support, and Accountability Relationships
  • God Made Me Do It: The Things I Never Intended to Learn
  • Homosexuality: A Case of Mistaken Responses
  • How to Reach LGBT Friends in a Post-Christian Culture
  • How Transformation Happens
  • Key to Ministering to the Hispanic Community
  • Making Your Church A Welcoming Place for God to Transform Lives
  • Why Gender Matters: Thoughts from a Transformed Transgender Person

The conference is a great place to be encouraged, to learn more about the issues around SSA, and to be better equipped to minister to those dealing with this issue in your community.

Isaiah 40:31 “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

If you would like to support me and the work I do in ministering to those with unwanted same-sex attractions you can do so here.

Looking Back on 2015 & Charitable Giving

2015-2016 change represents the new year 2016, three-dimensional rendering

2015 is drawing to a close and it’s a time when many people do their end of year charitable giving. I don’t regularly do a formal ask for support however once/year I remind people that if they would like to support me in the work I do they can do so. The work I do at Tower of Light Ministries is completely on a volunteer basis. Northshore Community Church generously provides me with office space, meeting rooms, and an operating budget, however any personal support is done through charitable giving. If you would like to make a contribution to the work I do in helping those struggling with same-sex attractions get the help and support they need, in educating the church so that we can love people in a loving yet Biblically appropriate way, in supporting parents, family members and spouses who are impacted by their loved ones same-sex attractions (SSA), etc. you can do so here.

The end of the year is also a time when I reflect on what is God is doing through the work He has called me to do, to love Him by serving those He’s sent my way. In looking back over 2015 and celebrating what God has done:

  • 29 men and women struggling with same-sex attractions came and met with me, some were one time meetings but many were for ongoing lay counseling or they started attending a group.
  • Approximately 30 people with SSA attended a recovery group.
  • 24 parents came for help with knowing how to appropriate love their child.
  • 12 men who weren’t struggling with SSA came for help with a variety of other issues.
  • I was able to meet with 9 classes of high school students at a Christian School to talk about homosexuality. Many of the students shared afterward that they had been confused about how to view homosexuality and that they now felt much more grounded.
  • I was privileged to teach on sexuality at several “Youth with a Mission” counseling schools overseas. I generally taught for 3 hours/day and then did a lot of 1-on-1 ministry time in the afternoons and evenings.       I ministered in South Africa for 2 weeks, in Switzerland for 1 week and in Thailand for 1 week. The teaching and ministry times were intense as the students had not processed any of this material before and it very impactful.
  • I did a 7 hour seminar on homosexuality in Switzerland, it would’ve normally only been 4.5 hours but it was being simultaneously translated into Chinese and Korean.
  • I did a 3 hour training on homosexuality for young people involved in urban outreach in downtown Seattle.
  • I was able to do a workshop on homosexuality at a sexual addiction conference.
  • I did four seminars on homosexuality at local churches with 450+ people attending.
  • I trained provided training for the staff at several local churches
  • I gave testimony at a Washington State Hearing Committee for a bill that would make it illegal for therapists to counsel minors with unwanted SSA.

When I look back over all that God has done this year, it’s really so much more than the numbers. I need to step back and remind myself that it’s really about how deeply God loves each and every person who struggles with SSA (and the parents and families who love them) and His desire for them to surrender their lives to Him and follow Him. It’s always my hope that in the process of walking this journey out with God that they will encounter more and more of their heavenly Father’s love for them. It really is a privilege to be able to partner with God in the work He is doing.

While your financial support is highly appreciated there is also a spiritual battle going on for the souls of those I minister to and I greatly covet your prayers. Prayer is what enables and supports the work God is doing and your prayers are greatly appreciated.

I’m so glad to have you partnering with me.

Thank you for your support and I hope you have a blessed Christmas this year.

James 5:20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins

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Seminar: “Homosexuality – How Should We Respond?”; Nov 21st

Homosexuality Flyer graphicIf someone in your life tells you they struggle with homosexuality how would you respond? If someone asks you if people are born gay and if there is a possibility for change, what would you say? If someone asks you what God says about homosexuality how would you answer?

I will be doing a seminar on Saturday morning Nov 21st from 8:30-1:00 at Northshore Community Church in Kirkland on how we should respond to the various questions we face regarding homosexuality. This is the same seminar I did in June so if you missed that one now is your chance to catch it! I’ll be covering the scriptures on homosexuality, the gay revisionist theology that’s becoming increasingly popular, how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, and how we should respond to those who are dealing with this issue in their lives.

This is a unique opportunity to be informed and think through this critical issue in our culture and in the lives of those we know and love.

No registration needed. No childcare provided.

Testimony – Happy News

bros around a coffee table (002)Many of the men coming for help with unwanted same-sex attractions don’t feel like they fit with other men, that they’re different from other men and that difference has them feeling like they’re on the outside of real men looking in. Part of the journey is acquiring a sense that who they are as a man with their own unique mix of characteristics is fine; that they’re a man amongst men; that they fit with men. I’m bringing this up because I recently received a very cool email from one of the men who participated in my Living Waters/Journey program. I asked him if I could share it with others on my blog and he gave his permission.

“Today I am writing you about some happy news for me. Last night I went to my first mainstream men’s bible study. During introductions I said a few things about me, and then the guy next to me said, “Yeah, we are all like that. It comes with having a Y chromosome”. The part that was so great for me, was that I genuinely agreed with him. I am a guy like any other guy (Check it out Jeff – I’m quoting you). I FIT in this group of guys.

I know that when I came to Living Waters, I wanted a complete one-hundred and eighty degree change in my sexual orientation. That didn’t happen, but I love the smaller changes just as much. I really love feeling like I belong in whatever group I am in. For me, this is a new feeling; for me this is a big deal. To me, this is happy news.”

A Time of Ministry in Thailand

I just spent a week in early September teaching on sexuality at a Youth With a Mission “Foundations of Counseling Ministry” school (FCM) in Chiang Mai, Thailand and had a very productive time. Thailand is a very sexually broken country, famous for its sex trade where families often sell their children into prostitution and where it’s not uncommon for families to intentionally cause transgender issues in their boys. Thailand’s constitution is even being changed to include the “third gender”. Thailand is the world leader in the number of sex reassignment surgeries and transgendered people are very common. The third gender applies to transgender as well as those who don’t identity as either male or female, it’s very common to encounter people whose appearance is completely androgynous. It was very fulfilling to be able to teach on sexuality in a country that is so gender confused.

The people attending the FCM schools are generally career missionaries who want to better help those they’re reaching out to. Of course in the process God often brings up areas in their own lives where he wants to come in and heal. When I teach at FCMs I offer to meet with people who are wanting some personal ministry time with me. I spent the week teaching all morning and then spent many of the afternoons/evenings meeting with people individually, 11 people in total. Additional people wanted to meet with me but my calendar was completely full. It was an intense week for many people and I know a number of them had significant breakthroughs while I was there. I feel very blessed to have had such an impact on so many people’s lives. A big “Thank You” to all those who partner with me with your prayers and sacrificial giving.

FYI – If you would like to financially partner with me and support the work I do you can do so here.

Ministering in Switzerland

            YWAM Lausanne, Switzerland

Lausanne, Switzerland

I just returned from a time of ministering at a Youth with a Mission (YWAM) base in Lausanne, Switzerland and it was a very productive and intense time. I started off the time with a 6 hour Saturday seminar on homosexuality for 55-60 YWAM missionaries. The seminar was longer than normal because it was being translated live into Chinese and Korean. I then taught for a week on sexuality for a Foundations of Counseling Ministry school that was primarily Chinese students so I needed to work with a Chinese translator. Talking about sex is taboo in Chinese culture so this was a unique opportunity for them to learn and talk about this important aspect of their lives. I also met with many of them individually to talk more deeply and to process areas of pain and brokenness. It was an intense and very blessed time.

Several people in Switzerland talked with me about personal struggles with same-sex attractions and I hope our time together was informative and helpful. I hope to continue to support them in their journeys.

While I just got back from teaching in Switzerland I’m going to be heading to Thailand shortly to teach on sexuality at a YWAM Foundations of Counseling School in Chiang Mai and I’ll also be doing a Saturday seminar on homosexuality for local Christians and missionaries. Thailand is a very sexually broken country and having well trained missionaries there to minister to those they’re reaching for Christ to is very important. Your prayers will be greatly appreciated, specifically that:

  • God would be preparing the hearts of the students to look into any areas of pain in their own lives where they need the healing touch of Jesus.
  • God would bless the seminar on homosexuality, that people would go away grounded in Biblical truth as well as how to relate to people in a loving yet scripturally appropriate way.
  • God would keep me healthy and safe.

Thank you everyone.

If you would like to financially partner with me and support the work I do you can do so here.

Such Were Some of You documentary 7pm July 10th!

Such_Were_Some_of_YouThis Friday evening I’ll be doing another screening of the documentary Such Were Some of You at 7:00pm at Northshore Community Church.  This professionally made, 2-hour documentary “tells the story of how people develop homosexual confusion and how Jesus Christ brings healing from those things that contribute to their same-sex attractions.” It includes many excerpts from the lives of 29 people who’ve walked out of homosexuality as the film describes how same-sex attractions develops in someone’s life, what the gay lifestyle was like for them, how they walked away from that, and what their journey with Christ has been like since. It’s a very informative and hopeful film.

For a short trailer of the documentary click here.

A follow-up on the June seminars

Hi everyone, It’s been a great summer so far, about 100 people attended the June 13th seminar in Monroe and another 250 people attended the one on June 20th at Northshore Community Church. It was very encouraging to see so many people wanting to learn more about this topic, even on gorgeous, summer Saturdays.  There have been a lot of requests for another seminar sometime soon and I am hoping to do another one this fall/winter.

As a result of the seminars I’ve had one person contact me for help with their struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions and a number of parents have come forward for support in loving their children well.  I’ve also heard from many people that they went away with a clear understanding of the scriptures, the truth behind the gay revisionist theology, and how to love people well in a scripturally appropriate way.

A big thank you to everyone who covered these events in prayer, they both went amazingly well.

If you would like to financially partner with me and support the work I do you can do so here.